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A Fallen JBLM Soldier's Memory Will Never Wash Away

Lakewood Patch's editor writes about how a small gesture of remembrance for the family of Staff Sgt. Alexander Povilaitis was one of the most poignant that he has ever seen.

Sometimes a picture is worth more than a thousand words.

In one case, the picture is priceless.

On Friday, I received an e-mail from Elizabeth Blanchette, an Army widow.

“I was wondering if you may know the family for SSG Alexander Povilaitis?” she wrote.

Povilaitis was a Joint Base Lewis-McChord soldier who died in Afghanistan within the last couple of months. That much I remembered immediately.

But to be honest, there have been so many stories of local soldiers who’ve died recently that it was difficult to remember the details of his. That’s how tough this year has been for our local soldiers on deployment.

After checking, Povilaitis and his story immediately registered. He was a decorated, 47-year-old staff sergeant with the 570th Sapper Company, 14th Engineer Battalion, 555th Engineer Brigade.

He died May 31 when an improvised explosion device, or IED, took out his vehicle.

Imagine the shock and heartbreak for any soldier’s family the moment the Army informs them of their loved one’s death. It’s on my mind every time I tell the story of a fallen JBLM soldier.

But I also think about how proud that family must be, how their loved one committed the ultimate sacrifice defending our country. Our fallen soldiers deserve to be remembered for their bravery and courage.

That’s why Blanchette’s e-mail, and more importantly the picture attached to it, stuck with me.

“Could you pass this picture on to them?” she asked regarding Povilaitis' family. “I have tried my best to look for them and I'm having no luck on trying to find them.”

“My friend Lisa Palmer puts the name of the fallen soldiers in the sand and does her best to find the families to send them this. She has had no luck on trying to find this family. Thank you so much if you are able to help.”

The picture itself is beautiful and poignant: a white sand beach that leads to blue ocean and beautiful island cliffs in the background.

In the sand, white and yellow flowers next to the words, “SSG Povilaitis.”

It's one of the most powerful images I've ever seen.

I wish every wife, mother, father, child, brother or sister of a fallen soldier could capture their loved one’s name in the sand. The names might wash away, but that image will always be there.

I wrote back saying that I couldn’t help directly. I don’t know Povilaitis’ family.

But what I do hope is that someone – whether it’s JBLM or a Patch user – who does know his family forwards this on.

What Palmer did is help pay respect to a great soldier, one of many from our area who’ve died doing their jobs.

Povilaitis' family deserves to see that – whether among his fellow soldiers or on a beach an ocean away – his memory will never wash away.

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steve swortz May 14, 2013 at 09:43 pm
David you can say that again.
David Anderson May 14, 2013 at 10:52 am
Despite your protestations to the contrary Steve, the Lakewood City Council does have aRead More responsibility and has established precedent on such businesses. Lakewood Ordinance #358 (November, 2004) consisted of 22 pages that included references to statistics nation-wide concerning the harmful secondary effects of Sexually Oriented Businesses (SOB’s – Lakewood’s own designation) upon communities; findings of a variety of stakeholders including “representatives from businesses, educational institutions, community leaders, and representatives from the adult entertainment industry;” research and study by the Planning Advisory Board citing case law and neighboring city’s ordinances affecting adult entertainment facilities; and the resulting action, based on this research, found that “an improperly operated SOB can constitute a public or moral nuisance.” This research was conducted in keeping with Lakewood’s purpose “to protect, foster and support the goals and ideals of schools, religious and public service organizations serving the Lakewood community.”
JM Simpson May 14, 2013 at 10:30 am
I agree with the comment that the City of Lakewood wants businesses locating here. The more theRead More businesses, the more the tax revenue. The more the revenue, the more the services. No argument there. What the City and many of its citizens do not want is businesses which do not fall within standard moral parameters. Coffee stands with near naked young women - who would be arrested for indecent exposure if they were to walk down the street dressed as they are in such coffee stands - does not meet that standard. Moreover, potential business owners who want to locate to Lakewood may decide not to because they may not want to do business in a city that seems to have little concern for civic and moral standards. Ah standards, what troublesome things they are. Then again, most adults do understand that moral standards matter to their families and community and, yes, businesses. So in your efforts to spend your money where you wish you argue that coffee stands that offer a peep show with the coffee is a better way of improving Lakewood's business environment when in reality it can do just the opposite? How is that smart?
steve swortz May 14, 2013 at 09:56 pm
This person who is "your neighbor" completely destroyed this conversation. Am I readingRead More this correctly your husband devices you after the first time he went to a bakini coffee stand? Maybe it was more than that. And what does the last comment mean? Brent you need to close this person's account. The racists comments are offense to me.
your neighbor May 14, 2013 at 03:25 pm
thought it was referred to as Chocolate City? that is what I hear at the bus stops....
your neighbor May 14, 2013 at 03:23 pm
And oh what about the HD when are they going to put an end to this and the Laws regarding this, MessRead More of nastiness. Bikini Baristas are not allowed to "Hand" you your drink,they have to put it on that ledge outside the window and all foods they sell must come prepackaged from the manufacturer ...... and there are other Laws & Rules they have to follow....... and believe me I watched them very carefully they step out of line once I was going to report them....... when the man in my life was working near the one that opened up by his place of employment I was watching Because I cared if my life was about to be changed.... I met with city hall to get the laws etc. I went to the HD to get the rules etc. And amazing the lies these gals taunt these men with to get these tips..... All I can say is be pro-active
Anyone in that area should visit them and find out more about them. I can tell you this: That clubRead More has a great time having fun and working at making our community better. Nice to see the City Council of Lakewood recognize them. You guys Rock.